A bunch of users over on r/askreddit recently opened up about what it’s really like to date an older woman, and the responses run the gamut from heartwarming to hilarious.

The most upvoted comment reads, “My wife was 15 years older than I am. We were together 40 years till she died of cancer. It was a good relationship and marriage. I know it would not work for everyone but we were happy.” That’s all you can really ask for in a marriage, isn’t it? How bittersweet.

Another user replied saying that as someone in a relationship with a 12-year age gap, his wife dying before he does is his biggest concern. Someone tried to reassure him by reminding him that women tend to live longer than men on average, prompting another person to joke, “dying georg who dies over 13 times a day is an outlier and should not have been counted.”

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Meanwhile, a different commenter shared one of the best breakup stories I’ve ever heard: “When I was 30(M) I dated a 42yo(F). It was pretty great. She was grounded, successful, easy going, and she knew what she wanted and didn’t want from life. Eventually, she decided we weren’t working out as a couple, so she made me breakfast, broke up with me very matter of factly, took me to bed one last time, and said goodbye. It was the best breakup I’ve ever had.”

Breakfast in bed and goodbye sex? That’s a hell of a send-off.

Other comments were fairly heartbreaking, highlighting the darker side of dating someone older — trying to shake off the stigma and associated anxieties around being in a relationship with a substantial age gap. Along those lines, one commenter wrote, “Girlfriend was 19 years older than me. I was 30 when we met, she was 49. Lived together for over 10 years. She had been divorced twice and had two teenage girls, I became like a step dad. I loved her (and her kids) and wanted to stay together forever. She couldn’t ever get comfortable with the age difference. Always worried I would leave her for younger woman or that I would want kids. No amount of assurance could convince her I was serious about staying together. Relationship ended five years ago. I miss her and haven’t had any interest in meeting someone new.”

The thing these stories had most in common was fact that they involved the best sex imaginable, which makes sense given what we know about women’s sex drives and how they change as they get older, with women reaching their “peak orgasmic frequency” in their 30s and not particularly diminishing with age.

Coo, coo, ca-choo, Mrs. Robinson?